New Year left behind. Noisy holidays were replaced by workdays, which return everyday life and vanity to our lives. I don’t want to go to the office on this gloomy Monday after the Christmas holidays, sit down at the computer instead of my favorite soft sofa. But this is inevitable, every adult will decide, because everything in this world once ends ...
Now imagine what sensations this period causes in children? Yesterday, they played unrestrainedly and had fun under the Christmas tree, surrounded by neighboring children and friends. Just a few days ago, they received so many gifts! Just recently, dreams came true one after another! And now ... It's over! Multiply your longing by 10 ... No, by 100! And you will get the feelings your child experiences when going to kindergarten or school on January 12th.
All babies show these feelings in different ways. One becomes moody, the other requires more attention from the parents, the third continues to beg for gifts, because everything received earlier was given to him not by you, but by the good Grandfather Frost. Observing this behavior, most parents begin to get nervous, and each such request of the child is suppressed in an ultimatum form. “You have received so many gifts from Santa Claus, why do you need more!” “You and I were at the entertainment center a couple of days ago, let's go no sooner than a couple of weeks.” "Dad and I need to work, and you go to kindergarten (school)." It would seem that all these parental remarks are very true, because living in a regime of constant holidays is simply impossible.
But again the same “buts” arise. And the child in a bad mood becomes sorry, and "vagaries from scratch" infuriate. But most of all, it’s a shame that so much was done for the holiday, so much money was spent on gifts, so much effort was made to make those days a real fairy tale. And thank you. The tale is over. Or maybe not? Can it be extended?
According to psychologists, the reason for such a poor mood of children and those same "strange vagaries" is simple. Young and old children value more than anything else ... No, not gifts. And it’s not at all those funny mornings and family festivities. Your attention is important for them - the presence of parents nearby, family trips to guests or to entertainment centers. Even the minutes when the baby unpacks the gifts, and you are next to him and together rejoice at the long-awaited toy. These valuable moments keep in memory of every child that indescribable feeling of a holiday, which even in adulthood makes us love the New Year and everything connected with it with great force.
But the New Year and then Christmas pass. Pampered by attention and affection, the child suddenly finds himself alone. It was as if he had just fallen asleep on his mother’s warm and soft hands, and when he woke up he found himself on a wooden bench in a cold park. Of course, such feelings will cause both moods and demands. But the basis of these requirements is not at all the desire to receive more gifts, but the attempt to return the attention that the child felt a few days ago. And all of you will only win if you pay this attention to a little "whim"!
How can I continue the story? Chat with your child! Talk with him about everything: how was the day at school or kindergarten, what did he do with classmates, what did the teachers and teachers tell about? You will be surprised how varied the days of a child are, especially if you put them “on the shelves”, how many feelings the relationship in the team evokes in him, and with what pleasure he communicates about them.
Find the option of a family ritual that allows you to be alone with your child for at least 30 minutes a day. Without a TV, without a mobile phone, without grandparents. Just you and your child.The best time will be going to bed when you can read a tiny book or just sit near his bed and discuss tomorrow. I read books to my daughter daily, regardless of my mood or state of health. And I know how important these evening readings are at bedtime.
One day my husband suggested that I replace reading a book at night with listening to audio fairy tales. At first, my daughter happily agreed (still, the children are always ready to experience a new experience!) But after 10 minutes she called me back with tears, asked me to turn off the story and read it to her. And this is not at all strange and not just another whim. After all, a mother in a crib, reading or talking is many times more valuable for each child, without exception, than any technical devices, listening to audio books or watching cartoons on a tablet!
And you also have to arrange family days off, when both mom and dad are at home. In the morning, go with the child to the entertainment center, just for an hour. And then go to the cafe to try a new pizza. You do not have to do this every week, you can do it less often. But the child will definitely wait for these days! For him, they are an opportunity to take mom and dad by the hand and go to where everything is unusual, joyful and interesting. Like in the very tale that was in his life recently. And which is not going to end at all!
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